Hectic week

I haven't been able to update in the last couple of days so I thought I would stay up tonight and update while the house is quiet.

Wednesday, July 27, Katie had her tubes put in and her adenoids taken out. She stuck to her daddy like glue. We sat in the waiting room and she wouldn't come to me at all. They brought us back and took her vitals and gave us a gown to put on her. She wouldn't let me put the gown on her. Daddy had to do it. It was over pretty quick and when we went back to the recovery area to see her, she wouldn't even let me touch her. She cried and was disoriented but was clinging to her daddy. I couldn't even wipe her tears. She took the tissue out of my hand and gave it to Tom to wipe. She refused to drink and was so upset that she had a little crying episode for 3 minutes. Tom teared up when she did that.

Sandra came to the Surgery Center before they took Katie to the OR. She had a stuffed cow that mooed in her car. Katie had played with it when she visited them. So she went to the car and got it for Katie. The nurses let her take it to the OR with her and she has been attached to it ever since. They have been checking on her and making sure she was ok. Tom and I were so touched that she would leave early to come and be with us before she went to work. Sandra, Jimmy, Samantha, and Ora Lee are such a blessing to us. They are always there when we need them. They adore our girls. In fact, Katie calls Jimmy Paw-Paw and Sandra Mamie. Of course, Samantha is Boo-Boo. Brittanie calls them Uncle Jimmy and Aunt Sandra and Aunt Sam. This is why we are drawing up a will to make sure that Jimmy and Sandra raise our girls in the event that something happens to both of us. I couldn't ask for better grandparents/godparents for our girls. I just hope that I am blessed with grandchildren one day. I am going to be one of those grandparents that I always wanted for myself and my girls. I will never be critical of my grandchildren or try to change them into what I think they should be. I will look at my grandchildren and be proud of the good things in their life instead of finding things I disapprove of. If I live anywhere close, I will be there for every sporting event, school activity, etc. they participate in. I will talk to them often on the phone and make sure I see them often. They will never ever have to wonder if I love them unconditionally because I will.

Tom is an outstanding father. I wish my dad could have been half as attentive to me as Tom is to his girls. I wanted my girls to have a daddy that adored them and was very loving and attentive to them and that is exactly what God blessed me with. God has truly blessed us with our girls. Brittanie is such a blessing. She is smart, beautiful, talented, responsible, and mature. So much so that people at her school call her "the last American virgin" and "14 going on 27." She doesn't care. She is a Christian young lady and refuses to drink, smoke, do drugs, have sex, etc. She respects herself too much. I guess that is why I get mad when people who are supposed to love her find fault with her. Compared to the average teenager, Brittanie is a saint. She isn't perfect but a perfect teenager is a boring teenager. Brittanie is moody and very sensitive. She gets her feelings hurt easily. But what teenager isn't moody? I wish she were a little less sensitive because I want her to see herself the way I see her and so many others see her. She is GREAT!! If God would have given me a chance to pick the daughter I wanted, I would have chosen Brittanie. One thing she does know is that her daddy and I love her unconditionally. That's why she is as close to us as she is. The man she marries is going to be getting a true princess.

Anyway, we are all getting over being sick. Katie was back to normal from her surgery Wednesday afternoon and was begging to go to daycare on Thursday. I was going to take her to daycare today but she woke up sluggish this morning and was clinging to me....even with Tom in the room. That never happens. After being on me for an hour, I told her I needed to get something to drink. So I got up and she went and climbed up on her daddy. I hadn't been in the kitchen a minute when she threw up all over Tom. He said "How did you know to get up a minute before she would have thrown up on you?" hahaha Just luck I guess. Today, she started running fever. If she is still running fever in the morning, I'm going to take her to see her pediatrician in the morning.

I talked to Jonathan tonight. He and his wife and their girls are coming to spend the night with us on August 12th so they can watch Brittanie cheer at her first varsity football game and then the next day they will take the girls to EdVenture Children's Museum while I watch the baby. We will have a cookout with them that afternoon. He is leaving in September for a three year stent in Germany. I am going to miss him so much. I feel like he is my son. He got a bum rap growing up. His wife told me that he said I am the only one who really loved him growing up. I don't understand that. He was the first grandson! He was his mom's first son. He should have been the golden boy. Instead he came second to a loser stepfather and didn't live close enough to be spoiled by his grandparents. But he always knew I loved him. He made some mistakes along the way, but I'm so proud of him. He is a good husband and father. He has turned into a fine young man.

Stupidity fascinates me!

Today my niece has achieved new heights of stupidity. Five years ago, she stayed with her loser husband after he beat her. A couple of months ago, she finally got the courage to kick him out when he insisted on moving his son from a previous marriage into their home. This son is a MAJOR loser and has taken and dealt every drug known to man and even tried to kill his little brother in a drug induced rage. I was proud of her for standing her ground to protect herself and her daughters against these losers. Well stupid is as stupid does and now she tells me they are still going to get a divorce but they are going to live separately and just date. This is the last straw for me. I was furious when she took him back after he beat her but now I see that she just loves the poor white trash lifestyle and in order to be poor white trash you have to have the stereotypical wife beating loser husband. So she can have him but she can no longer count on me for anything. I have washed my hands. I offered to move her here where she can start over and get a good job, put her girls in better schools, and find a good Christian man because there just aren't any in Louisiana. But she would prefer to stay in the ghetto living in a 20 year old trailer that is falling apart and hanging on to a loser who beat her and was willing to move a drug addict into her home that she shares with her two innocent girls. You can't protect people from themselves. If she wants to be white trash, there is nothing I can do about it. I'm done. I just thank God that I'm adopted and that this is NOT my gene pool. I do feel bad for her girls though. What kind of future are they going to have with a mother like that?

Tom and Brittanie went to Cedar Point today. They had fun. I am glad they enjoyed themselves and are having some quality father/daughter time. But I REALLY miss them. I had to kill a bug all by myself today. Of course that's not the only reason I miss Tom but it is one aspect of marriage that we take for granted.

Well, I'm behind on my typing so I better get on it. I don't think I will sleep much tonight because I'm just too stunned that after everything that loser has put her through that my niece will take him back. But unfortunately there is no pill that cures stupidity.

Let the water works begin!

I feel bad for my baby girl today. She misses her daddy. She must have asked me 100 times where her daddy is. Right now she is in the tub crying because she didn't want me to give her a bath. She wanted her daddy to do it. I tried explaining that Daddy is in Ohio and won't be back until Tuesday and her bath just won't wait until Tuesday. But she is 2 years old and doesn't care about excuses. She just wants her daddy.

Tom and Brittanie called earlier and told me they saw the Pro-Football Hall of Fame and it was really cool. They went to the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame and weren't impressed. But at least they can say the have been there. They ate at the Hard Rock Cafe in Cleveland and then drove to Sandusky, checked in their hotel and went to see a movie I have been waiting to see....Wedding Crashers. That's ok. Hopefully I will catch up on my typing and be feeling better by Tuesday and will go see it myself. When Brittanie gets home, she and I are going to see Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.

I don't do alone very well. I can't wait for Tom and Brittanie to get home. I don't sleep as well without Tom snoring next to me. hehehe I miss Brittanie's precious smile when she kisses me goodnight. I'm a mess already and she has only been gone 24 hours. I can't imagine what shape I am going to be in if she actually goes to West Point for 6 years!

Well I got my baby out of the tub. She asked me to let her play for awhile but all she did was cry. So I dressed her and held her while she calmed down. When I kissed her and layed her down in her bed, she had big crocodile tears in her eyes and her little bottom lip was poking out. I told her goodnight and I loved her and she said "I want daddy." It broke my heart. He promised her yesterday when he left us that he will take her on this trip when she gets older. That's no consolation for a 2-year-old. All she knows is that daddy isn't here and she misses him. She has been a daddy's girl from day 1. My heart is breaking for her.

What a mess!

I haven't updated in awhile because everything went haywire. Katie has been fighting an ear infection and sinus infection/cold. She gave us her cold. She is much better. Tom is still a little hoarse after a rough week of being sick. Brittanie had a very mild case of it. But now it is my turn. This cold comes with a NASTY sore throat. I haven't felt like this since I had that nasty abscess behind my tonsils when I was 16. It is miserable. I took Katie to see Dr. Scott Thompson, who is the best ENT in Columbia, and he is going to put tubes in her ears and take out her adenoids Wednesday, July 27th. Well Tom and Brittanie has been planning on trip to Ohio, New York, New Jersey, and Virginia that started today and would go until next Saturday. Well I just took Katie this past Tuesday to Dr. Thompson and he feels it would be best to get those tubes in her ears before all of that fluid makes another infection. Not only that but my boss is on vacation next week so it is a perfect week to do it. That way I won't get behind on my typing while I'm taking care of Katie. Well the gloves came off because of lack of communication. Tom thought I should change the date because they had this trip planned. I thought he should cancel the trip and just be here for us. When we finally took a step back and talked about it calmly and rationally, we came to a good compromise. The trip had been talked about for years and the main part was going to Cedar Point, Ohio. The rest was added this year so they could go to Six Flags New Jersey to ride Kingda Ka, which is the world's biggest and fastest roller coaster. Well Cedar Point still holds that title because Kingda Ka didn't stay up very long and it has been down for over a month. So the compromise was for him and Brittanie to run up to Ohio and visit the Pro-Football Hall of Fame and then the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame and then eat at the Hard Rock Cafe. Then the next day, they are going to Cedar Point and ride everything they can. Then they are leaving Tuesday to come home and will be here for Katie's surgery on Wednesday. I miss them already but I'm so sick that I really can't think of much besides how bad my throat hurts. I'm hoping I get better by tomorrow so I can type and get most of it done. Tuesday I have to go to Brittanie's school and make some changes to her schedule and pay her fees. Wednesday is Katie's surgery. Thursday Brittanie has to work registration for a mini cheer camp for little kids. Sunday night, Brittanie is going to see Hilary Duff in concert in Charleston and she won Meet and Greet passes for winning a shirt decorating contest. Then Monday, my boss comes back from vacation and school starts that Thursday. I looked at Brittanie's cheerleading calendar and she is going to be soooooooooo busy. I can't wait till she can start driving. By the way, Brittanie was bummed about having to cut the trip short but she got over it when Tom pulled up with the rental car today......... 2005 Mustang....candy apple red. She had a fit. That's her dream car!! If she keeps her grades up, she will have a 2006 Mustang in the driveway for her sweet 16 next year. One more thing, this week I found out who my true friends are. When I thought Tom was still going to be on his trip, my true friends stepped up. Samantha and her mom were going to come up there to the Palmetto Surgery Center with me, which is at least 30 minutes away, and be with me at 6:30 in the morning so I wouldn't be alone. Sandra gave me her number at work because she checked out the Surgery Center and she is only 5 minutes away and if I need her, she can be there with me in five minutes. I was so touched by them that I literally cried that night. My niece, who is poor as a church mouse, was trying to figure out how to get here to be with me to help me with Katie. Of course I wouldn't let her do that. But it touched me that she was seriously wanting to do it. I did alot of praying and God took care of it. Tom ended up cutting his trip short to be here. But He also showed me the importance of having good friends in my life. By the way, Samantha, her mom, and Sandra are my neighbors and Tom's family. I always knew they were wonderful but they really showed their love in a big way this week. God has truly blessed me!! Well I'm going to bed and hope that I can sleep. For updates on Tom and Brittanie's trip, check out Tom's blog, www.tuxyturvy.com. He has my digital camera and will posting pictures too. G'night yall!

Sooooo sleepy

I went to bed way too late last night. Got up this morning and had to drop my toddler off at daycare, go to the doctor to get my toenail removed, come home for all of 2 hours then back to Columbia for a sleep doctor appointment for my oldest daughter. Then it is back home for a couple of hours then back to Columbia to pick up my toddler and drop my oldest daughter off at gymnastics/cheerleading, then back home to type. Meanwhile, my "friends" are ringing my phone off the hook wanting this or that from me. They don't know what kind of day I'm having because they don't bother to ask how my life is going. They need...they need....they need. They are never there for me. But that's ok. I do have good friends that are there for me and that's what I'm going to focus on.

Enough griping. I'm over it. I don't have time to give it anymore thought.